Lesson #1: Married life = lots of change.

I am still very new at this and figuring out what/when to blog.  I have put a lot of thought into my blog the past few days.  Two main thoughts have occured:

-I forgot to mention that I am 100% inspired by one of my best friends, Amy.  Her blog is the only one I have consistanly followed.  You should check it out!  It's called Raising Tomatoes and it's my fav!

-I cannot have a blog and simply sit down everyday and write every single thing I did that day and expect for me to stay interested, let alone others.  So I need a focus.  The focus was already there, I just needed to see it.  I am going to post by lessons.  (Hints the title!)  I feel like everyone learns lessons everyday, but right now I feel like I am learning a significant amount.  Yeah, we'll try this out.  (:

Anyway, lesson 1:  Married life = lots of change.

I could type on this lesson, and will probably have many posts on this particular lesson, but today is the first of many changes.  Let's narrow it down!

Lesson 1: Married life = lots of changing relationships.

Today I went to a cookout with a group of friends from highschool.  I am very lucky to have such wonderful friends who have stayed so close, even post graduation.  They are so fun and they definitely keep life entertaining!

As I was sitting there listening to their conversations I felt lost and out of place.  Our lives are getting ready to be completely different and it has been hitting me lately, but it really hit me tonight.  I have heard many people tell me that I will lose a lot of friends over the next year, and now I may believe them.

In psychology I learned that relationships are caused by many different things.  Two of those being proximity and similarity.  We have defeated the proximity part, but now the similarity part is changing too.  Our priorities are different, our homes look different, our important people are very different, and our lifestyles are different.  Despite all of this, I hope that I can stay close with them.  It is going to take understanding and flexibility from both ends, but we did overcome one obstacle.  Who says we can't overcome two?

This all sounds really sad, but I am not sad.  Just learning.  I am realizing what obstacles lie ahead and growing up!  (Which isn't that bad, despite what media says...)

Well, I think that is all for now.  I am sure this lesson will repeat itself and others similiar to it will come up.  We will save all of that for other posts!  We don't want anyone to get overwhelmed!  (Me.)

Have a wonderful day learning your own life lessons.