Well, it has been a while. And I have learned a great many lessons. I have wanted to write on my blog everyday since I last posted. But, the last month before your wedding is busy! And by the end of the day, you are tired. I apologize for not posting, although I am sure no one is addicted to my blog in a way that it seriously affected your life. If you are addicted, however, I would love to know what about my first 3 post caught you. (:
I thought maybe I'd post a few lessons that I've learned and a bit about each. They can be sublessons of lesson #3.
Lesson #3a - The most precious love comes from a child.
About a week and a half ago I went to my future in-laws house to hang out with Donna, my soon to be mother-in-law, and my flower girls and ring bearers and their Mammas. (and Jack) The girls had to do their last fitting for their flower girl dresses. (Donna made their dresses and they are DARLING.) On my way out there, I was thinking about how much I hadn't seen them lately and how I missed hanging out with them. I felt bad that they were doing so much and being such a big part of my wedding and I had neglected to make time to spend with them. (I have done that to a lot of people the past month or two due to wedding, moving, and so on).
But, do you know what? They each showed me they loved me so much in their own way. I just couldn't understand how lucky I was! Ben and Will, the two oldest, told me about how they knew my car and were excited when they saw me pull up. They told me about their weekend and chatted me up for a long while. Kate Nana, sister to Ben and Will, she was so cute. Let me give you a run down on Kate Nana. She does not like itchy clothes, she does not like tags in her clothes, and she does not enjoy most dresses. But do you know what? She tried on her dress and she decided that she could wear it since "she likes Kandice." Olivia, my other flower girl, is very girly and LOVED her dress. She has been practicing to be the perfect flower girl for months now. Her excitement makes my heart burst! And little Emery... he is Olivia's younger brother and just turned 2. When I sat down at the table to eat he ran up and got in my lap and gave lots of love in the form of hugs! How blessed am I!
I am not actually blood related to any of these children and some people are confused why I have them in such big roles in my wedding. But, as I said in the last post, blood doesn't mean a thing. Those children light up my life and I love them each so much. I am so happy that they are going to be part of my big day and I can't wait to see their smiling faces (or upset faces because the isle just isn't their thing) on the biggest day of my life!
Lesson #3b - When you get married, you don't just get married.
The past month, as I keep saying, has been a wild one. I thought once school was out I'd put my wedding hat on and cruise right into June 16. But, it is so much more than that! If I was just planning a wedding, my life would be a lot easier!
Just in case you haven't gotten married before, let me clue you in. Along with planning a weddding, you also:
-Move into a new home.
-Switch insurance
-Plan honeymoon
-Combine everything in your life with everything in someone else's life
-If your partner comes with a pet, you get a new pet
-O, and if you are smart enough to plan a trip to Haiti in the same summer, you have that as well
To clarify, I am in NO way complaining! I love my busy, crazy life! I am simply explaining the lessoned I have learned. Although, I don't think I will need this in my future, I may be able to pass the knowledge on to someone else. (:
Well, I think that is all for today. Sorry no pictures, I thought I'd keep it simple for today. I am leaving out a lot of lessons, but the main point of this post is to say, I probably won't post for a while. The next week is looking crazy and the next week I'll be in the Bahamas and this will be the last thing on my mind...
Have a wonderful two weeks learning your own lessons. I look forward to hearing about them when I return.
Saturday, June 9, 2012
Sunday, May 27, 2012
Lesson #2: I am lucky to have the family I do
Today I spent an enormous amout of time with family.
The dictionary definition of family is: A group consisting of parents and children living together in a household. However, the synonyms of family are kin - house - household - stock - clan - race - tribe.
The definition of a tribe is: A social division in a traditional society consisting of families or communities linked by social, economic, religious, or blood ties, with a common culture and dialect, typically having a recognized leader.
The definition of a clan is: A group of close-knit and interrelated families.
I like different pieces of each definition. The definition of family is very narrow alone. My definition would look more like: a group of people with a common link who are close-knit and who have a special kind of love for each other.
The reason I am clarifying is because when I say that I spent time with my family today, I mean I spent time with a church family I hadn't met before, time with Matthew's parents and grandparents, time with my mom's side of the family, my great uncle's extended family, friends from Lebanon, KY, and my housemates. We are all related in different ways but I consider each and every one of them my family.
Why am I lucky to have the family I do?
My family makes a point to come together, fellowship together, ask each other about each other's lives, prepare food for everyone to share, and to love on each other. I watched my Grandma sit on the porch swing and have a conversation with her husband's sister's husband's mom because they are old friends. I watched my 2nd cousins bubble over with excitement when Matthew, my fiance, walked in the house. I watched so many different people from so many different sides of the family sit under the shade of the trees and talk for hours. There aren't many families who have that kind of connection.
My immediate family makes a point to sit down to have dinner every night. Whether we are yapping about our days, rushing to make it to a game, or arguing about who took who's shoes, we made a point to sit down every night and eat dinner. Granit, it didn't ALWAYS happen. The effort was there though. I have been in many households who don't do this, and there is an obvious difference in the dynamic of the house. Now that I am moved out, I have made up my mind that my husband and I will eat dinner together every night so that I can keep the tradition alive. There are many statistics that show it is healthy for your family, you should try it if you don't!
I could go on for a long time... But I think that will do for now! I am trying my hardest not to overdo my posts... I don't want to find them exhausting or feel like a chore.
2 more things:
-Lebanon is the most beautiful town in Kentucky.
-Lebanon is THE definition of a small town.
-I went to church with Matthew's family at Stewards Creek. I usually attend Muldraugh Hill when I am in Lebanon on Sundays. When I got to my cousin's house, 5 hours after leaving the church, my uncle greeted me with, "I heard you were at Stewards Creek this morning for church!" O Lord, how the news flies!
I hope everyone is enjoying their Memorial Day weekends! Don't get too hot!
The dictionary definition of family is: A group consisting of parents and children living together in a household. However, the synonyms of family are kin - house - household - stock - clan - race - tribe.
The definition of a tribe is: A social division in a traditional society consisting of families or communities linked by social, economic, religious, or blood ties, with a common culture and dialect, typically having a recognized leader.
The definition of a clan is: A group of close-knit and interrelated families.
I like different pieces of each definition. The definition of family is very narrow alone. My definition would look more like: a group of people with a common link who are close-knit and who have a special kind of love for each other.
The reason I am clarifying is because when I say that I spent time with my family today, I mean I spent time with a church family I hadn't met before, time with Matthew's parents and grandparents, time with my mom's side of the family, my great uncle's extended family, friends from Lebanon, KY, and my housemates. We are all related in different ways but I consider each and every one of them my family.
Why am I lucky to have the family I do?
My family makes a point to come together, fellowship together, ask each other about each other's lives, prepare food for everyone to share, and to love on each other. I watched my Grandma sit on the porch swing and have a conversation with her husband's sister's husband's mom because they are old friends. I watched my 2nd cousins bubble over with excitement when Matthew, my fiance, walked in the house. I watched so many different people from so many different sides of the family sit under the shade of the trees and talk for hours. There aren't many families who have that kind of connection.
My immediate family makes a point to sit down to have dinner every night. Whether we are yapping about our days, rushing to make it to a game, or arguing about who took who's shoes, we made a point to sit down every night and eat dinner. Granit, it didn't ALWAYS happen. The effort was there though. I have been in many households who don't do this, and there is an obvious difference in the dynamic of the house. Now that I am moved out, I have made up my mind that my husband and I will eat dinner together every night so that I can keep the tradition alive. There are many statistics that show it is healthy for your family, you should try it if you don't!
I could go on for a long time... But I think that will do for now! I am trying my hardest not to overdo my posts... I don't want to find them exhausting or feel like a chore.
2 more things:
-Lebanon is the most beautiful town in Kentucky.
-Lebanon is THE definition of a small town.
-I went to church with Matthew's family at Stewards Creek. I usually attend Muldraugh Hill when I am in Lebanon on Sundays. When I got to my cousin's house, 5 hours after leaving the church, my uncle greeted me with, "I heard you were at Stewards Creek this morning for church!" O Lord, how the news flies!
I hope everyone is enjoying their Memorial Day weekends! Don't get too hot!
Saturday, May 26, 2012
Lesson #1: Married life = lots of change.
I am still very new at this and figuring out what/when to blog. I have put a lot of thought into my blog the past few days. Two main thoughts have occured:
-I forgot to mention that I am 100% inspired by one of my best friends, Amy. Her blog is the only one I have consistanly followed. You should check it out! It's called Raising Tomatoes and it's my fav!
-I cannot have a blog and simply sit down everyday and write every single thing I did that day and expect for me to stay interested, let alone others. So I need a focus. The focus was already there, I just needed to see it. I am going to post by lessons. (Hints the title!) I feel like everyone learns lessons everyday, but right now I feel like I am learning a significant amount. Yeah, we'll try this out. (:
Anyway, lesson 1: Married life = lots of change.
I could type on this lesson, and will probably have many posts on this particular lesson, but today is the first of many changes. Let's narrow it down!
Lesson 1: Married life = lots of changing relationships.
Today I went to a cookout with a group of friends from highschool. I am very lucky to have such wonderful friends who have stayed so close, even post graduation. They are so fun and they definitely keep life entertaining!
As I was sitting there listening to their conversations I felt lost and out of place. Our lives are getting ready to be completely different and it has been hitting me lately, but it really hit me tonight. I have heard many people tell me that I will lose a lot of friends over the next year, and now I may believe them.
In psychology I learned that relationships are caused by many different things. Two of those being proximity and similarity. We have defeated the proximity part, but now the similarity part is changing too. Our priorities are different, our homes look different, our important people are very different, and our lifestyles are different. Despite all of this, I hope that I can stay close with them. It is going to take understanding and flexibility from both ends, but we did overcome one obstacle. Who says we can't overcome two?
This all sounds really sad, but I am not sad. Just learning. I am realizing what obstacles lie ahead and growing up! (Which isn't that bad, despite what media says...)
Well, I think that is all for now. I am sure this lesson will repeat itself and others similiar to it will come up. We will save all of that for other posts! We don't want anyone to get overwhelmed! (Me.)
Have a wonderful day learning your own life lessons.
-I forgot to mention that I am 100% inspired by one of my best friends, Amy. Her blog is the only one I have consistanly followed. You should check it out! It's called Raising Tomatoes and it's my fav!
-I cannot have a blog and simply sit down everyday and write every single thing I did that day and expect for me to stay interested, let alone others. So I need a focus. The focus was already there, I just needed to see it. I am going to post by lessons. (Hints the title!) I feel like everyone learns lessons everyday, but right now I feel like I am learning a significant amount. Yeah, we'll try this out. (:
Anyway, lesson 1: Married life = lots of change.
I could type on this lesson, and will probably have many posts on this particular lesson, but today is the first of many changes. Let's narrow it down!
Lesson 1: Married life = lots of changing relationships.
Today I went to a cookout with a group of friends from highschool. I am very lucky to have such wonderful friends who have stayed so close, even post graduation. They are so fun and they definitely keep life entertaining!
In psychology I learned that relationships are caused by many different things. Two of those being proximity and similarity. We have defeated the proximity part, but now the similarity part is changing too. Our priorities are different, our homes look different, our important people are very different, and our lifestyles are different. Despite all of this, I hope that I can stay close with them. It is going to take understanding and flexibility from both ends, but we did overcome one obstacle. Who says we can't overcome two?
This all sounds really sad, but I am not sad. Just learning. I am realizing what obstacles lie ahead and growing up! (Which isn't that bad, despite what media says...)
Well, I think that is all for now. I am sure this lesson will repeat itself and others similiar to it will come up. We will save all of that for other posts! We don't want anyone to get overwhelmed! (Me.)
Have a wonderful day learning your own life lessons.
Friday, May 25, 2012
Post #1 - Hello!
Well, hello blog world! I have been contemplating whether I should join or not for months and alas, here I am! I am not sure if this will last or if it will be a phase or if I will be writing on this years from now. Who knows?
Why did I join the blogging world? Well, I will soon delete my facebook, July 22 to be exact. The reason I am keeping it now is because of the convenience it gives me to communicate with my Haiti team. (My Haiti trip that I will take in July will be a big topic of conversation in my posts, along with many other life changing events.) Anyway, I will soon delete my facebook. The one thing that keeps me from going through with it is the lack of communication I will have with relatives and friends that are not in my town. My Aunt B once told me she loved me having a facebook because she could keep up with me despite the 90 minute distance.
The other reason, I figured out that typing out my day is very theraputic. I realized this when I was typing an email to my soulmate and cousin, Tracy. I got lost in the email and looked up and had written a novel. But, it felt so good. So, even if not a soul reads this blog, I will feel better just by writing. So, no pressure to keep up or to check in daily. The reason for my blogging is 70% selfish.
To begin my blog and end this post I think I should give a run down of my life at the moment:
-Just finished my 2nd year of college.
-Officially moved in to my new home with two of my best friends, a married couple from my church. Matthew will soon follow.
-Getting married to my highschool sweetheart June 16 of this year, that's in 22 days.
-Leading a mission trip to Haiti in July.
-Work at Kohls.
-Babysit two wonderful children whom I love dearly.
-I love lists.
All of this to say, I feel that I have something to say with my life, "Something to write home about."
Why did I join the blogging world? Well, I will soon delete my facebook, July 22 to be exact. The reason I am keeping it now is because of the convenience it gives me to communicate with my Haiti team. (My Haiti trip that I will take in July will be a big topic of conversation in my posts, along with many other life changing events.) Anyway, I will soon delete my facebook. The one thing that keeps me from going through with it is the lack of communication I will have with relatives and friends that are not in my town. My Aunt B once told me she loved me having a facebook because she could keep up with me despite the 90 minute distance.
The other reason, I figured out that typing out my day is very theraputic. I realized this when I was typing an email to my soulmate and cousin, Tracy. I got lost in the email and looked up and had written a novel. But, it felt so good. So, even if not a soul reads this blog, I will feel better just by writing. So, no pressure to keep up or to check in daily. The reason for my blogging is 70% selfish.
To begin my blog and end this post I think I should give a run down of my life at the moment:
-Just finished my 2nd year of college.
-Officially moved in to my new home with two of my best friends, a married couple from my church. Matthew will soon follow.
-Getting married to my highschool sweetheart June 16 of this year, that's in 22 days.
-Leading a mission trip to Haiti in July.
-Work at Kohls.
-Babysit two wonderful children whom I love dearly.
-I love lists.
All of this to say, I feel that I have something to say with my life, "Something to write home about."
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